A big fat Indian Wedding is all about money honey. The more you splurge the more you wish you could.
I am all for traditions and customs, but it hurts me immensely to see loads of money going down the drains for getting a lavish wedding set up. A simple wedding, with some close friends and family, around a sumptuous lunch or dinner would any day make much more sense.
While I also agree that this wedding propoganda actually also supports a whole industry and creates a lot of money making options. But think of a middle class family, who have saved day by day to create a decent bank balance. And here comes a daughter's wedding and the bank balance goes into a depleting spiral.
In North India, the give and take of gifts has also reached an unacceptable limits. All this adds up to the already high budgets needed for planning a wedding.
It is high time that the coming generation starts changing the trend.
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Resonate with this line of thought. Of course, my husband says, when my daughter gets married, we will be luck to get invited to the wedding ;)
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Weddings cost a fortune! My husband and I had a small wedding where I did a lot of things myself and still managed to spend a fortune. Here in the US, it amounts to one day...but the memories I have found will last a lifetime. You just never forget the details from that day...and that is priceless!
ReplyDeleteYeah weddings do cost a lot!!! But then, mostly it is a once in a lifetime event nah!
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Agree, while those who can afford can give and take as much as they want, but pushing the common man to spend beyond his means is simply criminal. And the worst is when this continues even after marriage!! I am not for such extravaganza on marriages, somehow!
ReplyDeleteSuch a lavish show of wealth in marriages is becoming a norm.This should be condemned by every one.
ReplyDeleteOh yeah. So many weddings are simply business deals! :)
ReplyDeleteI agree. It almost seems like competition - who can put up the most lavish wedding and who gives the biggest gift
ReplyDeleteI agree its time we changed it! But tht needs a lot of confidence nd courage to pave the new path
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to even have an American wedding without spending a fortune. We did an all-inclusive wedding for my second wedding and it was still thousands of dollars.
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We had a very small wedding. When I was a teen, my dad told me I'd have to wait to get married until I was old enough to pay for it myself. I wonder if, when my 30th birthday came and went, he ever regretted that command! But I did wait, and kept it both affordable and easy to plan, largely of necessity (the planning part was the biggest issue. I just had no time).
ReplyDeleteAnd you know, nearly 20 years later, we're still married. So I guess a low-key wedding works just fine :)
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So true Shiva Kapoor... I totally agree with you...Its such waste of money..
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Hi Shiva. Visiting from A to Z. I know what you mean about the cost of weddings. I guess that is something true across cultures. We certainly spend way to much for weddings here in America. One of my nephews eloped, so they had only a small wedding, just the two of them with two witnesses and we all missed out. I felt bad not to have been there. However, we have a huge family and it would have been a great expense, so I totally understand and appreciate their decision. Too bad people feel pressured to spend all that money for one day. Is there another way to mark it as significant and special and still invite everyone? I don't know. Maria from Delight Directed Living
ReplyDeleteI totally agree -- we eloped!
ReplyDeleteCarol @ Battered Hope
Indian weddings are visually stunning! But I agree that the extravagance isn't needed. A simple wedding will do it for me. :)
ReplyDeleteI surely agree! Weddings are beautiful celebrations but being a bit frugal is definitely better than struggling to pay all the debt after the party is over :). --- #theawsomedish from the a to z challenge.
ReplyDeleteOne of my bosses just showed me photos from a lavish Indian wedding he just went to. It's an interesting question you pose. I think weddings deserve to be grand events because they celebrate an eternal relationship, but you don't need to spend all your money on food and decorations to honor God. A humble ceremony would honor Him just as much.
ReplyDeleteIndia, I would guess, must have horrendous money drains for weddings. America is crazy as well, but I think the average weddings are now scaling down while the wealthy weddings are scaling up.
ReplyDeleteMy wedding (41 years ago) cost $300; it was during the 70s, less was more.
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oh tellme about it.! The parents start hoarding money (in case of south indians gold hoarding begins) right from moment the child turns 5!!
ReplyDeleteDamn! too much only!
The #atozchallenge has brought me to a wedding in India, what more can you ask for when blog hopping.
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