Friday, April 4, 2014

Door Stopper




                                                  D for Door Blocking

When they say Indian Weddings are fun, it is more because even the character artists in the whole drama called wedding, are given good enough footage. Door Blocking, is one such custom, which not only gets some light moments for the family and guests, but also makes relatives of the bride feel "wanted".

Door Blocking, in hindi called "Darwaza Rukai" is done in various forms at various times by different people. Some of those moments are:

1. When the groom gets ready to sit on his mare and proceed for Baraat (Hope you read that post), his sisters and cousins block the door and do not allow him to go. Basically all these customs are also money minting techniques, and the only way to appease the door stopper is to bribe her with an envelope with a decent amount of money.

2. The sisters really get the cream when it comes to such money making customs. Yet another time when they are at guard, is when the bride is entering the home after her "Vidaai" (basically see off by her folks). Poor girl, she anyways is not happy leaving her home and coming to a new place. and to top it, she is being extorted for money to enter the new house. Actually this is where her ragging starts. In many places after she does get the permission to come inside the house, she has to bow to a covered heap, which is said to be the family deity. And what it actually turns out is a pair of shoes. Mean no !!! But these are the memories which make weddings fun and giggly. 

3. Another moment when the sister in laws get lucky with the door stopping gimmick, is at a time when the Groom is at a very vulnerable stage. They catch the fish just at the right time. This is when the groom is all ready for his wedding night and  is dying to to enter the room, where his bride is waiting. And the evil SILs would just not let him go till he butters them adequately.

4.Some families also have a custom of door stopping of the groom by the Bride's mother. This is when the Baraat arrives at the wedding venue. The mother must pull the Groom's nose before he is allowed to enter.

So that was D for you. Ofcourse D also stands for Daaru, which is an integral part of the North Indian wedding. It is the license to let it loose and be "high" on "spirits"..well literally. D also also stands for Dholak, which is the soul of Indian weddings, with all the folk songs of that region being sung on the beats of Dholak. 

Hope you are enjoying the A to Z of Indian Weddings. Do stay tuned for more.

The star Blog Post for Day 4 on D is Suzy who is putting together the jigsaw puzzle of life today. And today's piece is Destiny. Do read her series if you are looking for some answers.

Till we meet again ... Keep the Doors of your heart open for me!!!


25 comments:

  1. True, this is one more fun custom...a bit crazy but fun!

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  2. Door blocking :D brings very funny incidents to my mind that happened during my brother's wedding :D sure is a time to have fun, irritating the groom a little ;)

    Swathi
    A-Z Participant :)

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  3. our weddings are not half this fun yea :-/

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  4. Thanks so much for featuring my post. A very entertaining post. brought to mind the song Joote de do paise le lo.

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  5. Sounds like the bride and groom better have a big wad of cash on them or they will be in trouble! ♥

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  6. Ah I know this custom :)) we sisters get paid in cash- we earn from many customs and people ask me why do I love marriages so much :P
    P.S. Laughing on D for Daru... have been seeing its popularity in North Indian weddings :D :P

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  7. Hmmm booty collection time for the sisters. Such fun this is.

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  8. Reminds me of my wedding when my husband nieces and sisters stopped me at the door :) lovely memories.

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  9. D also stands for drama :D which you get doles of it in indian weddings :D

    Richa

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    1. i was thinking of putting drama in it too... but skipped but its so true

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  10. Thoroughly enjoying this series! Although I know some customs, I like the way you narrate them :)

    Shailaja

    A to Z Challenge, 2014
    Introspection in Shades of 11

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  11. If only South Indian weddings also had this drama and door rituals...

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  12. D for door blocking....it is fun for us south indians who do not have such customs...
    nice post...

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  13. Nice one! :) Rarely do you see a post dedicated to varied nuances of Indian Marriage. Darwaza Rukai eye-opener! :)

    Do visit mine: http://adkaal.blogspot.com

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  14. Thank you for sure a fun interesting piece.

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  15. hehehe. This sounds like so much fun. In fact it is!

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  16. A very interesting post ! Looking forward to read more.

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  17. Ha ha - that sounds like a lot of fun - That smart door stopper ...:-) We have something similar also:-) YES- really enjoy your theme:-)

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  18. It is great fun! Punjabi weddings are really interesting!

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  19. Love the drama and the negotiations that happen at the doors in Punjabi weddings!! :D

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  20. Some fun at weddings, but Daru caught me unawares !! I thought daru wasnt favoured for something as auspicious as a wedding :D

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  21. We have similar customs...and it's great to know more about other regions...Indian weddings are total fun, I agree

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  22. This is so much fun for everyone except the couple! ;)

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